
No television? No youth groups? No outings with friends unless your family is with you? Do these things equal one big, happy, family? That was the message I heard last night, and I'm still digesting it.
Last night the ladies (above) who are part of our newly formed homeschool association traveled to Sumter, SC (three hours one way!) to attend a homeschool conference by the
Maxwell family.

The
Maxwell family has been homeschooling for more than 20 years, and at various times of year they tour the country to do seminars to encourage other homeschooling families. They really do these conferences out of the goodness of their hearts. They don't charge a thing for the conferences and, though they do set out boxes for a love offering, they don't even pass a plate.
They are ultra-conservative and don't allow televisions in their homes. Their children don't attend youth groups, where they could be exposed to negative influences. Their children also don't "date" but are still able to find loving spouses.
Are these practices "too" conservative? Or are they simply following God's Word and plan for their family? I have to say, Steve and Teri Maxwell were great about backing up all their thoughts with Bible verses. Now I will have to study those verses for myself.
As for my family, as much as we are trying to "get back to the land," we also love our technology - cell phones, televisions, computers and, for the boys, video games. I'll be honest and say that although I think getting rid of the TV is a wonderful idea, I don't think we'll ever be able to do it.
On the other hand, the Maxwells are a beautiful family - and I don't mean skin deep beauty. What really struck me is how
happy they all seemed together. They really seemed to enjoy each others company. They were so loving toward each other. I don't think their teenagers would ever
think of sassing back and getting a big attitude like most teens today do. But I don't think they are behaving because they are afraid of getting grounded or the like. I think they did it because they love and respect their parents. You could see it in their demeanor. And I want that. Who are we to judge their ways when the results are so wonderful?
So what did we learn last night?
The first part of the seminar (for the moms) focused on scheduling and chores. The men, the young men, and the young ladies all went into other groups. Although the other ladies in my group thought they could really put to work what they learned about scheduling, we already have schedules and the like at my house.
But I really enjoyed the second part of the conference, which focused on keeping the hearts of our children so that they don't rebel as teenagers. Since two of my children are teenagers, I found this to be helpful. The cure, in a nutshell, seems to simply be... spending time with them. Going everywhere with them, doing everything with them, not letting the TV babysit...
Steve Maxwell was quick to point out that they don't believe in isolationism. They don't keep the children home all the time. They are always going places and doing things - they just do it as a family. The Maxwells say that by doing so, they are eliminating most
negative influences on their children.
I'll have to budget it in, but I plan to buy their book
"Keeping Our Children's Hearts." In fact, they have a lot of resources that I would like to get as I get the money. I love supporting other homeschool families and I really think their materials will be helpful. In fact, I know they will. I already do schedules for my family
because I have had their book,
"Managers of the Their Homes," for the past year. It has been invaluable.
All things said, I believe the conference was worth the six-hour round trip drive. I do wish we could have worked it out so our husbands could have gone too, because I would like to discuss these things with my husband and get his spiritual guidance. I still will, but it would be better if we had both heard the same ideas.
Oh, and the conference ended with the family preforming some country or bluegrass gospel. They are so talented!